Talk to Sexologist on Sexual Issue

M married since 3 years. Mere husband mujh se hmesha dour rehte hain. Pehli rat intercourse krne k bad 10 days bad huwa wo bhi mere herat bhary swalo ki wajha se. Phir 2 haftay bad phir mahino bad or ab saal se zyada hogaya. Main ne unko kai dafa cheat krne pe pakra. Or transgender porns dekhne par bhi jis ki wajha se unho ne ye confess keya k wo sex nahi karsaktay q k un se pentration nahi hoti. I never witness him on being discharge. Wo hmesha mujhy ghar se kahin bhejne ki krte hain.Main ghar pe hun to khud bahir nikal jatay hain or kehte hain dosto k sath hun. Or jub main nahi hun den stays at home. Now m having doubts, q k wo dr k pas bhi nahi jatay or ilaj bhi nahi krte or mujhy taltay rehte hain in relax mode..my question is how man is soo easy with knowing his impotency? Is this normal?we do not even have basic bonding. Once he bought some tablets for having sex tablet se bhi unse nahi hota "Signature" According to him he is saying main shadi k start main thek