Talk to Psychologist on Vagina Pain

Ms. Maria Bilal - Psychologist

MS (Applied Psychology), Certified Hypnotherapist | Rawalpindi | Book Appointment

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What you are describing is very typical from vaginismis (Vaginismus is a painful spasm of the vagina preventing intercourse. (1) It is crucial that she starts with Kegel excercises – research that – as that will help her to gain more voluntary control over the muscles directly involved during sex and that will help her to relax the muscles when they start tensing; (2) further it would be wonderful if you as the partner could assist her with your fingers (start with one until you are relaxed enough and then progress to two until she is comfortable and then three. Once you can insert 3 fingers you should be able to handle penetration by your partner. (3) Try to prevent penetration at all times until she is relaxed enough and lubricated enough If you find it difficult to achieve or address on your own; it always help to do it in conjunction with discussions and therapy with a relationship therapist that can contain the relationship and your dynamic while your work on this physically on your own.

It is important to be patient with one another and relaxed. Do not rush it or penetrate irrespective of the pain as it will just get worse – painful experiences will increase pain the next time….or times reinforcing a negative association and image of sex.